caitie
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I was in the similar situation. My friend became pergent and is kicked out of her house. She dropped out of high school and now walk the streets begging for money. I tried to help her. The lesson you should get from my story is you can lead the horse to water but you can't make it drink. I don't mean to be cruel, but even in your condition you have to know there is not much you can do. You can try a 72 hour watch from the local psych ward. You risk losing it all though. By the way DO NOT GIVE HER CASH! It will be spent on drugs if she is that hooked. |
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vegasbill1963
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your cutting your self over her?!!,how did she get to be so lucky?do your self a favor and quit treating her like a GOD,pray and do something different .like getting a new friend. |
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my4boyz1234
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sounds like the both of you need counseling....how dare you tell her if she doesn't stop you are going to cut again,,,I really pray that you don't if your friend doesn't care about herself of your feelings then she is really not a friend.....TAKE CARE OF YOU......stay blessed. |
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sweet77baby
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this is a very serious situation, you need to contact her parents and let them know whats going on. I don't think you telling her you're going to cut yourself is going to help, its just going to make it worse. You have to be the strong person and help her not bargain with her |
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SolMan
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Everyone needs to make their own mistakes. Don't own other people's problems! |
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iloveicecream103
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OMG! I'm so sorry!
Try Counseling, it works! |
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mike_ezx1369
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send her to me |
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idontkno
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you both need help .please get some .talk to someone be for you hurt yourself. |
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kcislandgirl1980
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Sorry, but you can't help somebody that don't won't to help themselves:) Don't hurt yourself though...your life should mean more to you, why should you care for her if she don't. |
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ProfessorFarnsworth
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If she doesn't want to stop....she won't stop. It's got to be on her own will...only so much you can do.
And I wouldn't try emotional blackmail to get someone to bend to your will...that isn't fair no matter what your intentions are. |
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floyd
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tell her parents |
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nelson_devon
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Stop being her friend. Save yourself. |
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Tulsa Time
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We all have the freedom to make mistakes. But with freedom comes responsibility. And the more freedom that you have the more responsible that you must be. Or that freedom will go away. She is being selfish in choosing to be this way. She needs to know that it's not all about her and there are other people counting on her to be there. Like you for example. And her parents. And all of her other friends. And for anyone else that said that it's OK to be irresponsible because you have freedom to do what you want. You are wrong. Irresponsibility will come back to haunt you at some point in time. It's a fact. If you don't get in trouble with your parents you will get in trouble with someone else like the police for example. They aren't as tolerant as your parents BTW. |
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bade_at_midnight
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Tell an authority figure. If she is a true friend, she will thank you. And don't start cutting again. |
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hjbergel
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try talking to her family,maybe they are not aware of what is going on with her life.ABOVE ALL DO SOMETHING BEFORE SHE ENDS UP AS WORM FOOD IN A SIX FOOT HOLE |
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dasiavou
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It sounds like she is not a very good friend, but since you care so much about her...it sounds like you both need some very supportive other friends. Threatening to hurt yourself is not the way to convince her, it sounds like she is too selfish for that. Make her realize that what she is doing is stupid and self-destructive. Let her know that you are there for her if and when she wants help, but you are not going to grovel and beg. That's what she wants... |
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buck_wonderz
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tell her parents n if that dont work go to the guidance n then to the police ya she will be mad but it is worth it
good luck n have a great day |
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Big.Dave
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Well, if you really care about her, take it seriously. There are laws against drugs, and there are people who get paid to enforce those laws. Additionally, as others have said, professional help sounds like it wouldn't hurt. |
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Elizoria
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From experience, nothing can stop someone from doing something they want or need (because of addiction, or otherwise) to do. I have tried to help 2 of my "friends" stop doing drugs, to no avail. They are no longer in my life, I had to set them free. Sorry to say, that you will probably have to distance yourself from her, or be taken down with her. You can't help people who don't want it, and you will just waste your precious time and resources trying.
I hope that your threat to her was just an idol threat, and that you wouldn't actually start hurting yourself again to make her stop sleeping around and doing drugs.
If you truly want to help this person, maybe you should turn to her parents. She'll hate you for it, but if you care about her life more than your friendship, it may be the route to go.
Take care of yourself. |
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happyjack
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My wife has a friend that way, I wish she would listen to me too. my best answer is to stay away, you did your part , Good Luck... |
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Redeemer
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Slap her! Slap her silly, and maybe she'll get it. |
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ecurb25
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Wish I could. I helplessly watched my son go down a similar path. It's heart breaking. She already needs professional help. |
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Vampires[will never hurt you]
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you need to talk to an adult about it. whether its her parents, yours, a teacher, or whoever. they will be able to help you |
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Beth
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Tell a trusted adult, theres nothing else you can do, and be prepared to lose her as a friend.
Good luck! |
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sarahchristinejenne
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How old is she? In school? Tell your parents, her parents, counselor, or some other adult you trust.
DO NOT START CUTTING AGAIN. This can start out mild and quickly become destructive again. If she doesn't care about you (or says she doesn't), that's all the more reason to get her help.
Do not feel guilty about "telling on her" and getting her in trouble for drugs. You may lose a friend in the short run, but you may save her life in the long run.
She is not "too far gone" for help. You need to get the adults in her life involved to show her how much she is loved and how much trouble she could get herself into.
Try to help her, but if it really doesn't work out in the end, keep in mind that you need to protect yourself and stay away from destructive people. |
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▒Яenée▒
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GET AWAY NOW!
You can't be friends with someone who has problems like that. You need to make sure her family knows about her drug problem and let her be until she is off drugs. |
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Life lover
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You both need to be admitted in a hospital. This is sick when you do what you do because she does what she does. Get help by talking to yours and her parents, priest or teacher. someone that could take control of this.. |
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scorpionx182009
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well show her the downside of drugs u know like videos and for the sl*t part u cant help and dont be sucicdal, my friend almost died from doing that |
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yOUNG Buck
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tell her to stop drop and roll |
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Anonymous
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Get the parents involved if it's really bad... That or you keep on being persistant. |
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lala ♥ (undress to impress)
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You have to sit down with your friend and have a long serious talk with her and tell her how much your nervous for her because of what she is doing and how she can get hurt from all her negative actions.You shouldn't try to make her feel guilty by saying you'll start cutting again because that won't help and it won't persuade her because she'll just say she has the right to get high as much as you do cutting.Let her know that if she doesn't get rid of her habbits that you don't feel comfortable with her having she could lose you as a friend.Don't get mad at her or yell be calm and be the best possible friend that you can and motivate her into becoming something better and hopefully she will reconsider.If she doesn't listen to you,you must tell an adult you trust and they can take it from there. |
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