Yurhynis
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She is a sick woman and very afraid to let you go as she will then be all alone.
She needs help, like counseling or therapy, and you may want to go with her. She needs to know how her behavior towards you is affecting you and that should it continue you probably will never want to have contact with her again once you leave her house.
Do yourself a favor and start looking for your own place. If you are motivated enough you can do anything you set your mind to. Get out of her house! |
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angel
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Strong words from a mother to a son.
She might not want you to leave home. But at 26 it might be time for you to leave. |
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worldhq101
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Your mother is the one who can't lve on her own, or doesn't want to. At your age you should be living your own life. You shouldn't let her guilt you into staying. She is abusive and doesn't deserve your loyalty and you definitely deserve better. Make a plan, get a place of your own, and don't tell her about it until you are ready to go, then tell her and go. She sounds like she may need professional help, and you may too if, at your age you allow her to control you like that. Good luck to you. |
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Betsy's & Tory's Mewse
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she sounds like a verbal abuser who berates you in hopes that you believe her. by doing this she is making you unsure of yourself. which leads to you staying with her. she is probably afraid of being alone too. |
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Chippy
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She is scared, confused and hurt. You are wanting to leave and this scares her, confuses her (why do they all leave me?) and hurt because you are moving onto a life that doesn't involve her. it's not right for her to call you that, and it should not be acceptable for anyone to hurt you or guilt trip you. You need to remove yourself from the situation and when things calm down, go to her and talk about how you feel. If that doesn't work, then at least you know you tried, and that no matter what, you are better off without her negative influence in your life. Good luck! |
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lilirishrose
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Dude, you are 26. You are a grown man you need to move out. Sounds like she wants you around for her own selfish reasons. You just need to leave. You should have left the nest awhile ago. If you have and job, money, and friends then you have a means. First get a place. Get it set up. Then when you mom is at work move out. Leave a note if you want, but just leave don't tell her where you are at. After a few weeks, call her. I let her know the minute that she starts to guilt trip you that she needs to stop, or you are going to hang up the phone. Tell her that you love her, but you are your own person. And I she can't deal, to talk to her anymore. Call on birthdays, and holidays. |
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*!Lil_Shawty!*
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She's doing this because she doesn't want you to go, she is trying to make u believe that u cant make it on ur own so u will stay with her. i think u should just give her some time, maybe she'll come around. My mom also says things like that when i talk about moving out..maybe she just feels she won't see u as much, like u wont visit her. Just let her know u'll come see her when u can and maybe things will work out.
Good luck.. |
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snoooopdogg
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Because she islonely |
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twostepper_1999
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Sounds to me like she still has issues with your dad leaving her and possibly other men in her life and feels as if you leave her too you won;t come back. But it is not normal for her to call you this and you do need to get out on your own. Just make sure that when you do you communicate with her as so she can see that you are not leaving HER just her resicence. No one should have to live with emotional abuse she is tryingto knock you down and make you feel as though you can't do it. Go for it I have faith in ya that you can strive on your own , Good luck |
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Emma B
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At the age of 26 it is well past the time that you should be thinking of starting out on your own, your mum probably feels that she will be isolated with you gone, but hey, are you going to the other side of the planet?? People will say things when they are angry or upset that they will later regret. Try and talk to her and reassure her that you are not running away, you want your independence. |
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Kim B
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She attempts to destroy your self esteem and maintain control as she is frightened of losing you. Leave. You are trapped and need to escape. You can have a better relationship with her when you face her on your own terms, not living in her house, under her control. You will be happy |
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ShAz
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leave your house |
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Little Miss Perfect
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No idea... But I think it's because she's mad at something or someone else and she's just taking it out on you. Tell her to stop and leave. If she calls you it again give her time but don't talk to her. Eventually she will cool. |
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Super Weather Woman
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tell somebody that can help go to a theropist w/ her so you can talk about it in a calm manner |
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dancerali11
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NO NO NO!!! That is VERY wrong of her and I dont blame you!! I hope you will tell someone you trust to help you!!! Good Luck!! |
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Bill
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No, she's emotionally abusive and trying to control you. You can't argue with someone like that, you can just get as FAR from them as possible. |
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Special K
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Not acceptable. She is a bully. Get out. If you need help, get some counceling for co-dependancy. |
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craigd2599
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Dude...at 26 you shouldn't be living with her anyway. She has issues. get out and don't give her your phone number or address. Living with your mom only sends the subconscious signal that you are unable to survive without her. |
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Papa Smurf
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i think your mother needs to go to a psychologist. it would do both you and your mother good. Try telling her that its not fair what she is doing to you. crying always helps :) |
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Kookie M
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Soounds like your mom has some major issues and you need to get away from her. You need someone who is gonna give you confidence and esteem not try to break you down. get out now honey |
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vanessa h
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shell get over it eventually iif u move out. u should have left years ago as soon as u became an adult. shame on u, ur being a moocher. |
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cherrysplash102
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that is really bad that she calls you that. That is not normal, and that is horrible, espeially at your age. |
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music.is.life.♥
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omg. get out of the house!!! u r 26 for goodness sake. u could easily support yourself. ignore the guilt if she is so mean to u. |
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stargrazer
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Never normal to call anyone this. This is very low and de-grading. |
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DX_Lover
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She is soo mean .moms should never call children like that. |
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madsmaha1
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She has anger issues...she sounds insecure and keeping you tied to her is her only way to function..get out. and get out now..screw the guilt trip!! |
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XxangelbyheartxX
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i think she really wants u by her side seriously but i dnt know y she would call u that...hmmm...jz live in a apartment or b neighbors probably that'll work out |
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frogbfound
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sounds like she is scared to be alone but don't let that stop you at some point she must deal with it and you shoudn't subject yourself to her verbal abuse. I would suggest a therapist (for her). |
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krazyjoe99
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Because she wasn't married to your father. That makes you a b*stard. She's got some problems. |
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Massive Hussein Mann
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Hey...YOU'RE 26!!! Stand up or get out! |
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