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Kobe
How can I control my temper?
Sometimes I get so angry and my biggest fear is that one day I'm going to snap and get life without parole. How can I learn control this anger and frustration I have inside?
I inhale while counting to seven and hold my breath while counting to 21. Repeat this 10 times. It calms you down and makes you feel more positive.
Crash
join a sport/ cry/ punch the heck out of a pillow!!
rudeboi
Learn to build up yourself as a person, work on your esteem and learn to start ignoring a lot of people. It's sad but people who know you do have a temper might work this against you. Extra note: I think you may be one of the few people who knows they might end up in jail for a personal problem and are looking for a way to avoid it. Great job!
happydema
I have a bad temper as well, mine is accompanied with a smart mouth. So, needless to say I have offended many people and gotten into fights as well....
Now that I am a parent I have learned to take time out to walk away when I know something will be said to upset me. I also contain myself by stopping and thinking what will be the outcome of what I'm about to say, will it do any good with what I'm about to say?
I am not perfect, but I am getting better day by day. I have controlled my road rage and people have told me how much more calm I seem.
Good luck and I hope you are able to control your temper :)
Trevor M
I also had major anger issues. I had so much anger I would get in physical fights with friends, co-workers, strangers, you name it. It was almost a high for me. My anger scared my wife to no end. I always thought it was not a problem, but she never knew when I was going to fly off the handle. So, I got professional help. I was prescribed an anti-depressant and after about 30-40 days my anger was in control. Also, alot of other things get better to. Anxiety, sleep, relationships, concentration, etc.
thinkbox08
You say and do things that cause dispute among others. The answer is not hard. Know that anger is a sign of weakness and not a sign of power and strength like some people believe. You should feel embaressed everytime you lose your control. Treat other people the way you want to be treated...do you want to be yelled at and have someone flip out on you? Just remember how it looks bad on you and shows weakness and you won't be so tempted to feel angry.
listen to calm music, like classical or jazz, or read a book.
manu
Close your eyes and think how dumb you must be. Then think of all funny or happy incidents in your life. I am in the same state u are. Believe me, it works. Later u feel damn guilty for losing ur temper.
imhawttcuzimfly13
get a punching bag, and punch it like heck when you are angry. i do that, and i got so mad one day that i broke my finger punching it without gloves...
(remember to wear gloves lol)
Justin H
seek medical attention
justizbk
when you feel in anger,try to smile ! It works really good. And don`t forget that all in the world is temporarily.. There is no time to waste with anger here in the world. .. And make a sport in your free times..With sport will your fears and anger reduce.. good luck
awgaa
You have to know that people who control their anger and keep it inside they are the stronger, it is your decision DO YOU WANT TO BE STRONG OR WEAK??!!
Colin K
I had to go to anger management due to a road rage related charge once, and the best advise I got from there is to listen to relaxing music, preferably something slower, and if that is not possible, try this three step method: stop talking, stop staring, leave the area. But you're right, I just hope that someone doesn't piss me off enough to make me snap. Good luck!
Bob
I hope you receive the correct mental health diagnosis and receive proper treatment and counseling as long as you have your assets, your health and most importantly, your freedom.
I allowed anxiety, agitation and temper to haunt me too long without any medical help. When I was arrested, then I woke up but I waited 5 more months to begin my recovery. The medication has stopped my temper and agitation cold turkey. If I feel the agitation reawaken, I inform my treatment team and medication is adjusted accordingly.
Relaxation did nothing for me when I was manic and ill but relaxation helps me a little bit.
Miss Paige
Go to the gym punch a ball.Jog and more activties to do let the anger out your you agression out hopes this works!!!!!!!
superslaan25
Breathe long, deep breaths whenever you feel angry. Remember, you are controlled by your own brain. So your body will do anything you want it to, and not do anything itself. Think about this everytime you become angry.
my64x
If there's something you you find that takes your mind off things, do it when you're feeling the anger rising. Keeping preoccupied with something else will make you forget the anger and will make it fade. Physical activity, like exercise and sports, should help quite a bit in that regard. Some people find listening to music calms them--everyone has different ways of dealing with their tempers. Just find out what calms you or what can keep you busy for a while and do it. Hope that helps!
ejptheonly
Meditation 10 to 15 minutes a day, whereby you ultimately are able to empty your mind of all thought. Once you attain Zen you will look back at your temper tantrums and see the futility of them. But don't take my word for it. Try it
Tim H
try prayer, it works.
try blowin' your top after asking God for help...
rilea k
i think of a question that leaves my mind empty like what is the sound of one hand clapping or i a tree falls in the middle of the woods doe it make sound........wll that was isnt good for me but it works with others my preferable strategy if count as high as i can in french but you may not know french but most important is to take a moment and carry sweet chocalate with you sounds stupid but it works something small you can pop into your mouth easly and when you go home pick up the phone and pretend you are talking to someone who is listening without dialing anything it can help but the best thing is too try not to put your self in angry situations hope i helped calmly yours the spazz manian devil (note if you dont change soon you might get a nick name like that)
Getting Real
It would help for you to figure out(perhaps counseling would help) why you are so angry. If your anger is bubbling just beneath the surface all of the time, then it is understandable why the least little spark will set it off and spill over.
Sometimes just walking away, and turning your anger to some other activity can help, such as running, swimming, walking, soccer, football, whatever you enjoy doing to relieve the stress that builds up with every day living. Talking to a friend or parent about your feelings, or situation can help. Don't hold in your emotions until you just blow up all at once. It's best to be honest with people that hurt your feelings or make you angry- if you tell them about it up front, it can keep you from blowing your top later. Pray for help with controlling your temper and issues. That definitely helps! Try to understand why people do the things that they do to make you mad, what makes you mad, and what calms you down. He who angers you, controls you. When you get angry, you give others control over you, because they learn what buttons to push to make you mad.
I hope this has been helpful to you, I hope you find peace in your life, which can only be achieved with God in your life. I promise.
Ali
that sometimes happen to me. but i found that a couple of things help me a LOT. one of the most effective way to to play a sport. for me, it's tennis. It releases so much stress and makes you feel exhilirated after the excercise. And the second thing is to get friends who appreciate you. Those friends who always encourage you to do what you want to do. Those ones that are supportive. And also, find a something you will be passionate about and pursue that passion. While doing it, i forget about everything else and feel happy when i accomplish something.
william the wizard
look man, the only to do something about your temper is to deal with it. think of it like you're on fire - if you were on fire, you'd be worried about it, like not in a sense, oh, you know, in about ten hours i'm going to be ash, but in a sense that you have to stop burning up, NOW! so you have to be thinking - i'm on fire, and i need to do something about it. because then you start being intentional about the way you act and the way your respond to others who might make you angry.
like i had this neighbor once, and he was always blaring his music, and i wanted to bash him. but i thought, you know, i think i can deal with my temper problems if i just let it go. and i got pretty dang mad, but eventually it didn't bother me anymore.
there's a great illustration from THE SIMPSONS about this. homer is really mad at mr. burns and he thinks about strangling him, but then after a few seconds of thought about strangling, he's thinking about eating pancakes. that's how you deal with anger. you sit down, cool off, think about how you should respond, and then get over it.
atzu_87
one short fix solution is to find an exit... when you feel like you're going to lose it, just go for a damn long walk and put it all into the footpath... that way you have however far you need to cool down, and that far to come back and think things through...
bmac
Get professional help.
One thing the counselor is going to tell you is that your anger/rage is really fear. We are afraid we are going to lose something we already have or not get something we want and that fear comes out in anger. 99% of the time, that's what it will turn out to be. Once you confront what it is that you are afraid of not getting or losing, you won't have that rage anymore.
spyderfantum13
I feel for you man, I was just like that. I work in retail now and its imperative I stem my temper. I found my niche though. You need to find an escape so that when you hold back you can blow off your steam later. I play airsoft with about 9 other guys. and let me tell you when its 5 on 5 and your in formation and then crap starts whizzing back and forth you forget all about life and just enjoy yourself. Get a hobby anything will do as long as you enjoy it. As you find yourself more relaxed you will find it easier to stem your temper.
lotsaroos
There are natural supplements that you can try, if you don't want to go to your doctor to see if there is a physical reason for your temper.
Try SAMe and see how that works for you. My husband has a light-wsitch temper and it works great for him, calms him down and things that would normally throw him over the edge roll off his back now.
To be on the safe side, though...check with your doctor. You could have a hormone imbalance or something that you can't self-medicate or treat on your own.
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