Not Me
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I understand your concern for your sister but I think it's going to take more than a gym membership to help her lose weight. She will need to change her eating habits for life.
Actually, maybe you are on the right track here.... do whatever you have to to get her to the gym and try to make it a good, fun experience for her and you. Talk to her about health and nutrition and the importance of regular exercise. You could kinda be like her personal trainer so to speak. Just encourage her in every way possible and help her to stay focused on a healthy future and not whatever the bad thing was that happened in her past.
Good luck to the both of you. |
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wiwa lover!
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wow you are doing good in looking out for ur sister
but ur mom isn't doing good in feeding ur sister the way she does look for some info on what could happen to ur sister if she doesn't change like diabetes or heart attacks, etc and show this to ur mom and see if she could change how she feeds ur sister then encourage them both to run or walk instead of using ur car to go to the store walk you know little things....but other than that if she doesn't wanna change there isn't much you could do! |
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shoty1054
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Take her running with you, either walk or run cause jogging is bad for your heart. And tell he some initiatives to make her work out like if you get any fatter you'll get heart disease and die, or something more suttle so she will stick to her health. *sorry bad example of what to say* And you could take her excercising with you at the gym, take it easy cause most over weight people have problems with excercising. If she wont eat for herself then I dont think you can help. Remember your life is in your own hands. |
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erikpilstrom
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Be supportive of her, and don't force her to do anything if she does not want to. I have experience with overweight people, and my general conclusion is that they are often very sensitive about their weight. Try finding an activity that she likes and has fun with. I'd also say that the gym wouldn't be the best place to take her, since it's very public, and she might get upset.
If you are truly concerned, speak to an expert and ask them for help. See if your sister wants to come along to talk to someone about her problem.
That's really all you can do. The main problem for overweigh people is that they usually have some sort of habit that they follow, and are reluctant to break that. It is also very mentally harsh on them, and they can be, as said, very sensitive about discussing it.
BE SUPPORTIVE! |
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Angela B
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I would say that when you approach her on the subject do NOT make her feel uncomfortable about it or like you are trying to "help her". Why not ask her to do fun excercise activities with you first? My sister and i take a water aerobics class together and we laugh and have so much fun we barely even realize it's excercise. What about a fun dance class? Try Zumba! Starting right in on having her join a gym is probably NOT what she wants to do because it doesn't seem like she would like to actually feel like she's "working out". Start small with things that are fun, and then when she realizes excercise can actually be fun and make her feel good maybe you can bring up her going to the gym with you one day. I hope this helps out and good luck! |
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BABE :D
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Try to encourage her to keep a Food-Diary which is basically a book filled with exactly what you eat everyday. Then after about a wekk or so you could sit down with her and go ovr what she is eating and why it is bad for her and what she could eat instead. E.g: a snack could be changed to an apple or something. Get her to keep writing the diary so you can see her progress. Also get her to do some exercise. |
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Jacob
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Step#1
OK this is what you do have your sister write in a diary everything she eats and when she eats it, also write down how she feels after.
step #2 After one week go over what she has wrote down in the diary with her. Try to sub out her bad habits with good ones. Example if she like McDonald's help her pick out the healthy things on the menu. Also replace soda with diet soda things like that.
Step #3 start exercise slowly. Start with taking short power walks with her and talking about her day in school. If she can't speak and walk then you are going too fast for her. Build up her cardio from that.
Step #4 she has to want to lose the weight! Most of the time there is a emotional reason for overeating. So you have to help her get over the emotional stress that's making her over eat. |
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ashley k
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talk to your mom on helping her eat more healthy. Maybe you could go grocery shopping with her and buy lots more healthy things. and yes she should come to the gym with you but mostly try to upgrade her eating habbits. |
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oneswtntl
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Poor thing!! Obesity is such a sad thing. I think a healthy diet, cardio, and some weight training will help. Try taking her to a dietician. (SP?)
I hope your mom isn't shoving unhealthy foods in her mouth... that is just WRONG!! |
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Mellie714
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Help her learn how to make healthy choices. Going to the gym is great to kick start weight loss, but also get her a pedometer and have her track how many steps she takes a day. You can't monitor what she eats, but she will be better off in the long run if she learns to eat healthy and makes healthy decisions. Best of luck! |
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SupDoc
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Did she ever get any counseling or help for the "traumatic experience"? If she is still having psychological problems with that she may not think it is worth it to her to exercise. If she doesn't want to go to the gym with you maybe you could just walk and talk to her. Maybe it is a self esteem issue. She has to feel good about herself, even at this weight, before she will be motivated to make any changes. Good luck. |
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kosovo_babe
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try to give her ideas on how to eat healthier and work out more |
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island3girl
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it's great that you are going to take her to the gym with you. be a bit careful with heavy weight because she is still growing and it may be harmful to do really heavy lifting
be sure to talk to her about nutrition and especially portion sizes. There are a few guidelines like a serving of meat is considered the size of the palm of your hand, etc. These are a bit more useful to her than 4 oz of meat - because it is hard to visualize 4 oz, but it is easier to understand when they say a tablespoon is the size of your thumb (like for peanut butter) or meat the size of palm deck of cards.
teach her to read food label. i.e. a 16 oz coke is more that one serving and to count those calories and be sure to double them if you drink the whole bottle
Maybe shop together (both of you trying to make healthy choices and reading labels) then make a meal together. Instead of pouring out salad dressing, use the spary bottle kind, eat air popped popcorn for snack with a spritz of I can't believe it's not butter, or with seasonings
ask mom to buy 100 calorie packs of snacks - it's easy or if that costs too much, but a regular package but portion them out in baggies and then take only one a day
limit juices - high calories
good for you and good luck to her - it's great that she has a sister that cares for her so much |
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nena
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dont make any mention of what her weight SHOULD be.. it could be very discouraging if she has a lot to lose. Its true that you cant really make her do anything but maybe if she starts out with something small -- take her outside for a walk or if its too cold then just walk around a big mall for a while ... she has to start slow as too much exercise too quickly can really damage her knees. Cardio is her best bet to start off -- perhaps make mention to it with your mom and just ask her to monitor a little more what she eats. Its not going to be easy and i'm sure you'll get a lot of resistance from your sisters end of things but that is an unhealthy weight for anyone let alone someone that young. Good luck in helping your sister and do your best to make it sound like you want to spend more time with her rather than wanting to tackle her weight problem. be patient |
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Jamie
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The reasons for your sister being overweight are more psychological than physical. she is using her fat to insulate herself from the pain she perceives in the world. Until she feels safe she won't be able to lose the weight and keep it off. She might actually start to lose weight, then panic when she begins to get attention, and binge. She's lucky to have your support. Getting her to walk with you is a good start. Counseling probably needed. |
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AlphaBeta
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I think it is commendable that you are trying to help your sister. You need to start by talking to your mother and getting her support. Without that (since your sister lives with your mother) you are not likely to have much success. Explain your concern and invite her to work together with you to help your sister. If she had a traumatic experience nine years ago and is still using food as a result than she needs some therapy. Until she starts to get over that she is not likely to be able to control her eating. As for exercise, you will probably have to start very slowly and work up. Try making a date a few times a week to go for a brisk walk with your sister. Slowly build up the pace and the distance and then move on to more challenging activities. Chances are she is neither physically nor psychologically ready to walk into a gym at this point. Good luck. |
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愛する~~
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If she doesn't want to do it, you're not going to get anywhere. Unfortunately, it takes a lot of effort from the person to get themselves to lose weight. You can't just do it for her, she has to want to do it. |
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Venom
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I hav ea sister that is the same way. There was a book called 'The Big Fat ***** Book', seriously, it changed my sisters life. She is now eating healthy and has lost 57 pounds.
She used to weigh 224. Also, be very supportive. Do not put down or ridicule, just support and and lend an open ear. |
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mJc
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Your poor sister... how awful to be that heavy. And good for you for trying to help her. I'd try to get her to do some type of fun activity at first - even if it's just bowling. Something to get her out of her home enviornment and moving. And if she's expressed interest in losing weight, encourage her to give up drinking soda pop. Just by doing that she'll start to lose weight and maybe if she sees improvement, it will lead to a more healthier life style for her.
Thanks for caring for your sister!! |
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♥Jennifer C♥
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wow now im concrened that is not healthy you might need to sit her down and show her how worried you are. and then ask her to strongly THINK about going to ur gym? I know i was at first i was scared of everyone looking at me. or you can work w/ her in the comfort of her own home. just a thought i know thats the hardest place. shes 15 she should start looking hot and let her know that not in a mean way my niece is 15 shes in gymnastics and that girls got stronger arms than her weight lifting team boys she likes to arm wresttle them lol neways good luck ill be prayin for you
wow im glad she is excited but for it not to be too hard. exercise ball exercises for balance, stability and strength
http://exercise.about.com/library/blbeginnerball.htm and then introduse the resistance band http://exercise.about.com/library/bltotalresistancebeginners.htm and crunches and abs & back http://exercise.about.com/cs/abs/l/blbeginnerabs.htm
http://exercise.about.com/cs/exbeginners/l/blbegstrength.htm
or if you like cardio walking w/ few increases http://exercise.about.com/cs/exbeginners/a/begcardio.htm |
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Sick Sasha
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I sorta went through the same thing
whatever you do DONT be blunt, it may make her worse
Id just suggest if she wanted to go to the gym with you every now and then 'because you want someone to come with you'
tell her its fun
and remember = weight is not a permenant thing, so if you are to tell her she needs to loose weight tell her nicely and remind her theres no need to get upset over being overweight as it can be solved |
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IAMWonder
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I think you are a wonderful sister to recognize she needs you. It is very difficult to watch someone you love go through this - food addiction. I know about these things. She needs to know that her appearance is not the dominant issue, it is her health, so that she understands where your heart is. Undoubtedly, she has endured a lot of hurtful situations because of it. Treatment for the food addiction in conjunction with change in nutrition and exercise and attending a support group is needed. As is with any addiction, she may start a program with you but not stick with it. Make sure she sees a doctor first and gets a full blood panel especially to check for thyroid condition. See doctor regularly to monitor and document her progress and check heart, lungs, liver and kidney function. I recommend for you to read up on food addictions to help you help her but know there is a point where only professional help will be effective. |
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tinktink20
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I guess the best thing to do is just get her active with you. Maybe take walks with her a couple times a week, or something else along those lines. Start her slowly so she doesn't get overwhelmed. She has to want this too though.... Keep her motivated and let her know that you care about her health. Good luck! |
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bethie_biker
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First, I think you need to ask your sister if she wants to go to the gym with you. If she agrees, then the staff at the gym should work with her to set up a routine which is right for her fitness level. It will be good that she has you for a workout buddy, but it's doubtful that your routine will be right for her. If she doesn't want to go to the gym, you should suggest taking a walk together. It's a start. |
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t9bettyboop
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First she needs to see a health care provider before doing any exercises. I can see you care a great deal about her, she has to want it herself as well. You can't force your habits onto someone else even if you think and it probably is the best thing for them. Get her to a health care provider, he or she will figure out the correct weight goal for your sister and probably give her some tips on the foods to eat and stay away from. Then you can figure out what exercise would be best for her. Sometimes just starting with walking is the best thing. |
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Hatakechiyo
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Well at least walk 30minutes a day with her if not at least by the end of the week make 3hrs of excersice. When she is with you have her drink a lot of water it help the fat loosen and helps you wieght faster.
The thing i hate about diets is that they ristrict you but they dont have to she can eat what she wants but the proportions of what she eats is what really counts so help her reduce the quantity of what she is eating. |
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beauteimparfait
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try talking to your mom about cutting down on sugerary foods, just keeping them out of the house
going to a gym is a great idea, if you do about 20 minutes of cardio and then 1/2 hour of toning/muscle building you will build the most muscle and muscle is what burns fat, also destressing my taking a yoga or pilates is good, stress can cause weight gainif she enjoys dancing try adn get her to take a dance class like hip-hop its cardio and its fun, also just dancing around the house is good excercise, most gyms also have a "boocamp" or fatburning program which would be beneficial |
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slopoke6968
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she needs therapy to work out the tragic event issue
then work on her physical health from there
mental health is also important
it all starts with your mind over matter |
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just_my_02c_worth
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First of all, you need to support her and encourage her. Secondly, I would ask her if she would join me for a daily walk, because this would give me (you) a chance to bond and talk and just spend some quality time together. After she loses some weight, you may want to encourage her to speed up the pace and eventually run together. |
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Iya
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The best way to help her fight weight gain: Become her workout buddy. And try not to preach; set an example instead: Once a week, you can hit the gym together. Each week, change it up and try two or three new workout moves to challenge her mind and body (and yours!). On the Women's Health magazine website, there are two tools I've tried that can be modified for ease: The Ultimate Fitness Guide '08 (http://www.womenshealthmag.com/extras/app/index.php?pages/ufp) and the Build Your Own Workout tool (http://www.womenshealthmag.com/files/customize-your-workout/index.html).
Mix it up! Add some new workouts moves you two can try together and you might find your relationship growing--not her waistline. She could use some motivation, pure and simple, and you could be the best one to do it.
You can also suggest she check out a WH article called "Mind Over Fatter"; after reading it, she might find that her friends' and mom's attitude toward food and exercise are rubbing off on her, making it harder to get in shape. A great workout can start with a great workout buddy (like you) and a good state of mind. |
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