I really don't see any other option because i have a miserable life. Anyone who look at me wont find any reason why should i do that but i hv lot of reasons:
1.My father died 11 yrs. ago ...
Im 16,I have depression,I self harm and Im suicidal.
I told my mom about the depression(not the self harm or being suicidal) a few weeks ago and she brought me to the doctor who ...
IM 27 and everyone i know is getting on and engaged has a life, good friends etc No im not saying their lives are perfect but yhey are content. I I have always cared about what people thought of me ...
earlier i threw my ipod because i just got angry for no reason i want to kno why i'm fine and then suddenly become realli angry for no reason at all Additional Details
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when i am ina public place i will count how many letters in words, how many seats on the bus, how many women/men on a bus and more... I just have to do it....
I don't know if I would necessarily call it depression or laziness. I get in these "spurts" where I just don't care about myself or my home or belongings. I'll go for days ...
My Mom died of stomach cancer after bravely fighting it for 4 months, nearly a month ago. At first everyone was great and supportive but now it's as if they're not bothered about me. I...
i take xanax, lithium, and now back again on effexor. my mind is racing. i have feelings of terror inside. if i am by myself i have the worst panic attack and basically black out with out passing out....
nothing is right in my life. i have no family or friends. i have no money. i have been depressed for years. i was molested for almost a year when i was younger. how ironic is it that i have a degree ...
Im depressed about school. I just started thinking about it and started crying. Because my astronomy class is so hard and I dont think I can pass it theres 3 weeks left. And I failed ALL the test and ...
she is cutting herself. she never listens to me i hav said her not to cut herself but she keeps on doing tht she controlled herself for almost 1 week again she has started to cut i dont know wht ...
can i call 1800suicide and ask them there opinion on if i should see a psychiatrist..after telling them how i been feeling and my thoughts and such???
Does anyone know of a number i could call ...
Bullet Wound Kid
I need help...desperatly...?
I'm a cutter. A few months ago i made a promise to my boyfriend and a specific friend that I wouldn't cut anymore. Sadly, I cut myself today. I can't tell them. I know they'll get disappointed in me. I did it because I just graduated from Middle School, and I'm never going to see most of my friends ever again. It gets me depressed just thinking about it. I'm already in therapy. My mother said if I ever cut myself again, and she found out, she would put me in a mental hospital. I can't tell her or anyone in my family. I feel bad though. I feel like I'm lying to my boyfriend and friend by not telling them. Should i tell them? if so, how?
How sad for you that you have all this pressure and don't have anyone to turn to that will give you encouragement & help. I had real problems in my teens, I ended up in juvinile detention, and was taken from my parents. You are at a terribly hard time of life, but I can promise you that with time, this too shall pass,,, find God and a Bible, I know that's not a popular thing in this world, but it saved my life, the Psalms were such a comfort, "save me Oh God, for the waters are come into my soul,,, I sink in deep mire where there is no standing"... it helped me to know that for all the history of the world, people have struggled, that they have been afraid & worried & lost, but that God loves each of us so very much, He just wants us to call out to Him to heal & help our poor broken hearts. I hope you can find peace & joy, don't give up, someday you will look back on this time & smile & say "I'm so glad all that is behind me!"
Angelgate
Candy
id just like 2 say that im sorry you feel this way...yes i think u should tell them when they are in a good mood...i hope all goes well and just remember that u r not alone.
smile once in a while =]
xoxo
lim
i'm sorry to hear that.you can email me if you feel like you want someone to listen to.i know sometimes things like this is hard to control.you feel like you need to cut yourself to get the release you want right?then how about if you're depressed and you feel like you need to cut yourself again call your bf or your friends immedietly and talk to them.think about them if you feel like you want to do it again.really hope you'll be free from this.
puedodharma
It would help to tell someone, but it's not right for your mom to threaten you with treatment. Treatment should be voluntary if anything, that is...if you really want to be helped/help yourself.
I am going to recommend two books:
Learned Optimism - Dr. E. P. Seligman
Creative Visualization - Shakti Gawain
The first book will help you with getting over your pessimism, which is leading to your destructive thoughts, depression, and somewhat reprehensible behavior.
The second book will help you to learn how to visualize and use the power of your own mind to bring those things which you want into your life through mainly creative visualization and the law of attraction.
And if you don't like to read, just do this:
Sit in a relaxed position, preferably indian style, but anyhow you're comfortable works too. Close your eyes and see your entire body relaxing, starting with the muscles in your face and traveling down to every muscle in your body.
When you feel sufficiently relaxed, I want you to focus on your body, and how well it's made, and how much you love it, etc. Or you could just focus on the color blue, as this can help with the relaxation part.
Seeing as you're most likely addicted to the way you feel when you cut yourself, and most likely to pessimism and depression as well, you must ween yourself off of them, and begin to become addicted to something positive, like for instance swimming, meditation, yoga, or riding your bike, etc.
I would highly recommend at least the first book...because it can reverse the thinking patterns which lead you to cut.
You could also try to identify the thoughts you have directly before you cut, and try to give yourself mental warnings and try to be with someone you love, or attempt to meditate/visualize, etc. when those thoughts resurface.
If anything, and I'm speaking from experience, you have to first learn to identify those things in the world which are positive. I know, there are a lot of negatives out there too, but focusing on them only brings them closer, as I'm sure you've noticed.
Oh, and if none of the above things work, variety is the spice of life, so you could try to do something every day which is different from what you normally do. You can either identify your fears and learn to control them, or you can do yourself one better and face them head on.
I really hope this helps.
And I know it will.
Grayson
Christyna
i know how you feel. ive promised a friend i wouldn't cut if he didn't. i feel all the time like i HAVE to cut myself, im gonna go crazy if i dont. ive actually cut twice since then. If it was really bad[like your entire arm is covered with cuts, or you have really deep ones] then you should confess to your friends. otherwise, try and keep yourself from doing it. wear long sleeves, and whenever you feel the need to cut yourself, you can melt a fistful of ice in your hand, or get a rubberband and put it around your wrist, pull it back, and let it snap down. feels just like it does when you first break the skin with a razor or whatever. just keep your friends close for support, keep going to therepy, whatever you need to get on the right track. good luck.
brian b
dear you need to tell someone its not easy growing up and moving on let me tell you i was ther one day life isnt easy but we all gotta go threw it make the best of it and you will be fine find love in yourself
ramon90003
yes tell them go get some help
Dutch
I'm sure your mom is really concerned about you but threatening to put you in a mental hospital doesn't seem to be very helpful. Make sure you tell your therapist how you feel. I think that you should convide in your boyfriend and your friend and let them know that you are still struggling with this. Make sure that you are open and honest with your therapist so that they can know the best way to help you. Good luck and take care of yourself.
Eve
You are disappointed in yourself now. Feeling pain, cutting yourself, I would think just doubles your pain..one in your heart and one wherever you cut yourself.
Just tell them, you did cut yourself and realize how much they care, and you were just not thinking of them at the time.
You do not belong in a mental hospital.....I do not know exactly why, however several kids do it.
Maybe to bring attention to themselves, something has to
be brothering you. Maybe your parents do not pay enough attention to you.
If you are in therapy, I sincerely hope you will not cut yourself again. You could accidently cut to hard and Bingo....was it
worth it to die. You mean alot to other people, just remember
that. And love yourself first...You would not hurt anyone you
really love!!!
There is a wonderful life out there. Those scars are going to
take awhile to heal. Put some vitamin E on them...the capsales..break them and put the oil from them on your scars.
Come on, be happy!!!
alibugs
Cutting is a harmful way of expressing emotional pain. Physical and emotional pain are very important part of being alive. They are unavoidable. You want to keep your word to your boyfriend and friend and that is a sign of caring. You will be able to do that when you care just as much for yourself.
When you encounter a painful situation in the future try to write about it ins ted of cutting. Or try sculpting in clay or try molding clay to start. If you tell them or not makes no difference because you know you did it and is bothering you.... You have to forgive yourself, heal yourself and love yourself....
You will be fine
sillykaykay
i kno how you feel. sometimes when i get yelled at by my mom i feel like i should hurt myself but i dont b/c my mind tells me its wrong and that i really dont want to do. i think u should tell them b/c theyre the ones ur goin to need to get u out of the cutting mood. u cant get out of it by urself. u should tell ur mom but also say ur sorry 4 doing it. Also she shouldnt put u in a mental hospital b/c that wont work. b/c it mite make u feel abandoned.
im not sure how b/c its up to u to figure that out. the way u tell them should be the way u feel u should tell them in ur heart.
sarolly140
I just graduated middle school myself, and it is indeed very depressing. But you don't have to resort to cutting yourself. Just talk to your "specific friend" or your boyfriend. Since you already cut yourself today, stop worrying about it. Again just talk to your friend and/or boyfriend about it and if they are true friends then they will accept that and help you through these hard times. Tell your therapist too, he or she will definitely know how to help you. Maybe you should try your best to hide it from your mother though, if she's going to put you in a mental hospital. Just don't worry about it too much. Fate is fate and if you end up in the mental hospital then that is apparently where you were meant to be.
kindness
I have anxiety/panic attacks and there are some illnesses that require help from a kind and understanding person. People who say they are going to do something if you don't stop, don't understand an emotional illness. I always try to think of positive, but also really helpful ways to tell a person how to solve their difficulty. Find someone who won't be angry or make demands in an upset or disappointed way. Kindness and honesty together help the most and if you can find a person you know who can be kind and honest to help you with this, tell them about it. When people get mad at you or make ultimatums, they surely don't understand the difficulty you are in. That is pressure that won't help. They've never had the difficulty you have. They need to be more understanding, but it's hard for them because they've never been in your shoes. As I said, find a person you can trust who won't make you feel like you are doing wrong on purpose, because you're not and someone maybe who has had a similar situation who knows how you feel. It's never good to be upset or demanding anything from a person who has a mental health issue. We don't give ourselves emotional and mental illness. Find someone who is kind and understanding.
Christine M
hmm well i dont think you should tell them, your mom could find out and put u in the mental hopsital
cutting yourself never helps you could die if u cut too deep and hit a major artery, try your best to stop talk to ur therapist be careful
Jesus Freak!
I am so sorry that you have gotten yourself into this terrible habbit. Cutting yourself is very dangerous and can be life threatening, I just wonder why you take all you anger out with violence instead of talking with someone and letting everything out. Try not to cut yourself, and try to talk to people instead, as for the real question, i can't answer, i'm sorry, and I wish you the best of luck! I hope you break the habbit!
robsmom
you say that you are already in therapy. You need to make sure that your counselor is told about this episode, and you need to explain to her how it makes you feel about lying to your bf and gf. Obviously you are replacing your depression with physical pain. At least you feel guilt when you lie, which is huge plus. I look at it like this: if you cheated on your bf you would feel bad, but you would probably leave him because the other boy made you feel good. If you went out with your gf's bf behind her back you would feel bad and maybe hope that she didn't find out because then she would be mad at you, but you probably had a good time with the guy so it would only matter if you got caught. Feeling guilty about cutting when you said you wouldn't is either that you truly DO hate yourself for doing something you said you wouldn't do...or that you secretly want them to find out so that they will feel bad for you, get mad and plead with you not to do it again..... you know....it would shake them up a little on your behalf. (sort of a control thing). So, I hope that for your sake you have a therapy session coming up soon and that it all comes out...........you need the help.
the_queen_of_hot_chicks
you need to tell someone, that is a serious issue, it needs to be discussed with your psychiatrist or your school councler anyone who can really help you with this. I would tell my friend and my boyfriend especially if I really cared about them
els
Bam!
You need to realize people leave your life, and it's always still possible to see them one day typically, if not, there's Myspace and Facebook. You need to realize that what you lose you could create again as you are able to do so. I don't think you should cut, you should focus your energy on helping those in need. There are many changes this world needs at the moment.
Jennifer M
If you feel that it would cause you more stress to tell them then I would say don't. I would talk about it during my next session with the therapist. If you think that your boyfriend or any of your other friends may be able to help you deal with your emotions that are causing you to cut then you maybe should just tell them that you need to talk about something and I bet that you would find that many of them have the same feelings as you do. Good luck.
Marti C
Yes, yes, yes. You have to tell them. Just tell them that the therapy insn't working and you need more help. I'm so sorry you're going through this. There's help for you. Maybe you're not getting the right kind to find the root of the problem.
Restless
Call your therapist and talk to her you have to learn to really open up to your therapist or they won't be able to help you. You should be able to reach them at any time if not whenever you are feeling depressed or anxious about cutting yourself try calling (562) 864-3722.
It seems you have a fear of being alone bc you don't want people to leave you. Understand that family and friends who truly love you will be around forever. I'll be praying for you and good luck remember you are not alone in this world.
Lost_grl06 RaMaDaN MuBaRaK
please don't make the mistakes i did, i got put in the hospital twice in foster care, then i went to live back home and got scared, so i cut my thigh really deep, i was scared for a long time after that, they'd put me back at the hospital, the policemen at my school had to check me every freakin day for cuts, i was so scared, but he only checked my arms and like calves...so wat ev. but seriously just tell.....nevermind, easier said then done, look email me, i'm totally with you, god i wanna cry cuz i'm so you! trust i have so many urges to cut, but i just don't....please email me, i wanna try to help you.
Ricky K-Fung
See if you can make a reminder to yourself, like a ribbon on your wrist, or a wrsitband. If that doesn't work, I think you and your parents should have a discussion, a real heart-felt one.
Thank You
You don't have to make promises like that to friends, and they shouldn't make you. Cutting is far more complicated than just saying you won't do it anymore for them. You need to have someone show you how to quit for yourself and no one else. You need help with this. You can't do it alone. Tell your mother.
Crapples
listen to usic to get away from your grief
email me if you want such types if music
cos ive been in your situation beofore
Dhani
come on bullet wound kid,
realizing mistake=punishment and forgiving.
so forget, no need to tell anyone, just behave now.
Jaime B
You need to think about how your family feels and not be so selfish, they care about you. I have a friend that has lost a baby and husband 9 months apart, she can't bring them back, and she is due to have another baby in 2 a month and a half.
I'm sorry but cutting yourself because you are not going to see your friends ever again doesn't make sense to me, if they are your friends you will make time to see each other even though you go to different schools. You do know how t work a phone don't you? Call your friends to get together, don't cut yourself up. Life is too short.
Kissle
Stop worrying about lying to them and worry about yourself.
Think:
You are young. Youve just graduated from middle school and youre depressed, ok. But try to look at this from a different angle. Youre getting closer to getting out into the real world. You have so much ahead of you, arent you excited about seeing it? Think about all the places you could travel to, the hobbies you could take up, doing something that you really love doing all day every day (instead of being shunted in and out of classrooms!). The world is huge and much bigger than the little space youre in now... you can go wherever you want and be whoever you want. Interesting people are everywhere and there´s so much to see and learn about- much more than what they put in front of you at school!!!
Start getting enthusiastic about your future! All of that is ahead of you.. you need to be healthy to be able to go out and do that. The world isnt just what youre living now.. there is good stuff ahead of you, so get excited, because it only gets better.
Miranda B
It would really be better for them to know, I think. If you hide it from them now, it will only make them angrier and more disappointed in the future that you did so. Tell someone you can trust, anyone at all, and see if they can do anything to help. Maybe you could talk to your therapist and see what he/she says to do, I don't think they can breach confidentiality, but I'm not sure. Not to try to sound like I know what you're going through, but if you really cannot stop doing this, maybe it is best that you stay somewhere for a while that would help you. You may think it sounds ridiculous for your mom to want to put you in any sort of facility, but truthfully I think that anything like that which would help you to stop would be so much better than trying on your own and lying about it. I really do hope you get through this, good luck.
Maybe if you tried to tell them, it would help for you yourself to suggest that you get help. They would be so much more eager to forget the past if you would seem ready to overcome whatever it is that drives you to do this and embrace the future.
;You'll-Rebel-To-Anything;
This is a tricky situation.
First of all, I'm sorry all this stuff is happening to you. I know how your feeling, I graduated Middle School last year around this time. A couple of my friends I wouldn't see for a long time, and one of them I never saw ever again..so I know how you feel. But try to remember all the memories you had with your friends..do you have any of there adresses...phone numbers...aim sn's?
Okay, back to the real buissness..the cutting part. I think your mom is wrong to threten you with the mental hospital thing. A lot of teenagers cutt, and just because they do doesn't mean they should be smashed in a mental hospital. So please, no way at all should you think your crazy.
I'm sorry you got to the point today that you felt that you had to cutt, but you should tell them. It may hurt, but you must face the scary truth and tell your boyfriend that you cutt once again. They may get angry, but they will understand if you come right out and tell them...they will respect you.
What you should do is promise them that you will get on the right road to not cutting..it's hard to stop cold turkey.
I hope you know, that you don't diserve feeling this way. I'm sure that your a beautifull intelligent person..and that this is just a bad time in your life. Its up to you to go to every therapy meeting and learn the root of the problem, and how to fix it. Try to surround yourself with happy people and think of the positives..because lifes too short. Your life is too precious..and you only have one so you should try to get rid of all the evils..even it takes you years. Once this stops, a huge weight will come off your shoulder. You need help, but more importantly you need people that will support you.
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