bob
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sounds like you self harm for there attention. you have gotta talk to them straight about it and try to deal with your problems withot doing this to yourself. you will find a way-- good luck |
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Gone fishin'
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Try talking to someone else. They may not understand you enough at this point. They may be thinking that you are OK. Find a walk-in psych clinic or a counsellor to get help right away. |
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scented rose
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IF YOUR PARENT'S WON 'T LISTEN ,then you need to speak to someone , they are organisations that you can ring up and professional people will help you , not knowing what age you are , talk to someone you trust, your school/ church / friend /neighbour,who ever you are comfortable with , there is no shame in this ,but you do need HELP . GOOD LUCK . and get that help a.s.a.p |
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purrfectsandcastle
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Go talk to your guidance counselor at school. Or if you have a pastor. Maybe your parents are in denial that you need help. Please don't wait to talk to someone. Maybe they can get with your parents and help them understand what your going through. I wish you much luck and God Bless You. |
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one hot mamma
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it is very difficult for us a parents to think something is wrong with our child. some think if they ignore it, it will go away. you may have to take it upon yourself to get the help you need. find a trusted adult, school counsellor, pastor, teacher, a friends parent or your local health department. i wish you well. |
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lutl424
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I agree with what others have said. so, something else to add.....at 14, you can seek out and obtain counseling/therapy with or without your parents' knowledge. |
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GOLDILOCKS
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You must talk to somebody , your parents are helpless so they ignore your problems ! Are there any people in your life that you can turn to ? If you can't think of anybody ring the Samaritans they are great listeners and know about all the right places to go and get help !
I cold them the other day , I wasn't suicidal ,just needed some
independent advice and this lady was totally amazing !
Good luck, please get some help,we all need it at times!
Sometimes people from the outside are better in giving advice ! |
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itssoooooocoolitscrazy
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if you really want help tell your best friend. he or she will tell the most understanding person that they know. trust me!!!!!!!!!!!!! i did it too. if you go out and tell your parents, just flat out, the will take what ever you use,even after you stop, and they will never trust you again. they will check your whole body and act like they had no idea like they didn't hear the things you said. some times you just need someone to tell even if its just a stranger. then take all that energy and put it in some thing good(painting, writing,whatever). you'll feel a lot better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i love ya! peace out xoxoxo |
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EmilyRose
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A lot of times people think that people harm themselves are just doing it for attention. So they'll ignore it, thinking that if the person doesn't get attetion for it, they'll stop. Other times, people, especially parents of a self harmer, will ignore it because they don't know how to deal with it, and it's easier to just pretend it doesn't exist. No one wants to see their child hurting himself, and sometime parents will just block it out and pretend it's not happening.
Do keep in mind though, that what's obvious to you, knowing that it's there, might not be obvious to other people, especially if they don't want to see it. I remember one time my chem class met outside because it was such a nice day, and I decided it was just too hot to wear long sleeves, and took my sweater off even though I'd cut my arm up pretty badly the night before. To me, all I could think about was keeping my arm turned so no one could see the cuts, and it seemed like no one could possibly look at me without seeing it. But as far as I know, no one else noticed. They weren't looking for it.
Self harm is a serious issue, and your parents shouldn't be ignoring it. Recognizing that you need help is a hard thing to do, and is a great start. You're presumably still a kid, so just telling your parents what's going on should be enough to get you the help you need, but things don't always work out the way they should. Since your parents aren't stepping up to help you, go to a doctor a school counselor, a teacher, another relative, or any other adult you trust. Your parents might be more inclined to help if they hear from another adult that you need it. If not, ask a school counselor or teacher for help. A relative or the parent of a close friend probably won't know what to do except tell your parents, but doctors and school officials (especially school counselors) will know how to help you even if your parents won't admit you need it. |
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lilmisssun22
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Sweetheart if you need to talk just leave me a message! |
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lame thoughts and sugar pops
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they either think its a phase, they dont want to believe you have a problem, or theyre just ignorant. either way you need help. talk to someone that can get you the right help and youll be fine, and if you can, get that person to tell your parents you have a problem.
hope this helps!! ^_^ |
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Emma
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Hang on a minute. Have you asked them for help?
Do you do it so someone will notice and give you attention?
Firstly you be honest with yourself, next tell them why you are lonely and want attention.
I realise by answering you this is giving you false attention but the issue is with yourself not them.
YOU KNOW YOU NEED HELP AND YOU KNOW WHERE TO GET - SO GO AND GET IT. |
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2plus3
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your parents probably know you self harm if its as obvious as you say, but they are probably afraid of upsetting you futher and causing you futher upset, as some self harmers try and hide it away from others. If you are ready to talk to someone about your depression then i would suggest calling a dedicated helpline who can advise you better of what to do next with regards to helping you get help and tackling your parents. I think they will be relieved if you sat down and spoke to them and told them what you feel you need to say to them. They are your parents and it's very likely that they have not come across this situation before and do not know how to handle it. I am no expert at depression but i am a mother and i know that your parents will have some inkling of what is going on and are just to scared to confront you with their worries. I do not think it is because they just don't care. I personally think if i suspected my child of self harm i would be a nervous wreck and frightened for my child but at the same time be in denial. No mother likes to think that her child is that unhappy. Like i say i am no expert on this but i would recommend you sit down and speak to them, if you felt closer to one over the other then sit and talk to the one you feel closer to if you cant face both together, but please do talk to someone. This is something i think you need help with to overcome. Please feel free to email me and i will try and help you in any way i can. Good luck and try and stay strong. |
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debbiegreen332003
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Write in down in a letter or a note or talk to a teacher at school or your doctor |
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saorsie
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as above. |
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Angel Kiss
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People sometimes get frightened because they don't know what to do or how to handle a situation and the only way they can get through it, is to convince themselves that the problem will sort itself and go away.
My father has alot of problems in dealing with things and his way to cope is to work all the time when theres a problem, every minute that he can. My baby sister was born with a terminal illness and all the time she was alive my dad just worked and worked and worked and after she died he just carried on working straight after and pretending she never exisisted.. I have had alot of emotional issues throughout my life which my dad just ignores.
I hope you didn't mind me sharing that with you. Perhaps it could be the same thing with your parents.
I don't know you and the situation so the only thing i can suggest to you is to find someone near to you to help you. I'm not sure how old you are and don't want you to take this as an insult if you think you are too old but childline (24 hour free phone 0800 1111) are amazing. You can call them annoymously without giving your name and they will talk with you about how you feel and try and help you to take the action that you need to make things get better. I'd say you can call them when you are aged up to about 18, even after that you could try and ask them if they can give you contacts for other people who can help. I know alot of cities have help services for young people.
I know sometimes it can be hard to ask for help but believe me from experience i know that coping with things on your own is much much harder.
Good luck and Best wishes
xx |
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Jude
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They are probably in denial. You do need professional help, like Helen said you can ring Childline on 0800 1111 it's for teenagers too.
Or go to your GP if you think he/ she would understand. But please find someone to talk to about how you feel. |
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janey
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Maybe your parents dont know how to deal with it because they are only human too, they may think by ignoring it, it will go away. You need to talk to them and tell them to listen as you put your feelings across. Tell them you want to stop and you need their support, even if it means that they sit with you until the feeling passes. You also need to go to see a doctor. If you are depressed then it may be that you have a chemical imbalance and need something to help you get back of the right road to recovery. Theres nothing wrong with taking anti depressants, i think the majority of people are now on them with the stresses of living and making a living. My husband is on them, its done the world of good for him, and me. |
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clairelouise
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aw chick thats terrible. perhaps you could talk to them?
or maybe you could talk to someone else - a friend, teacher, other family member - and they could talk to your parents for you?
please dont leave it much longer. i left my depression far too long before getting help. self-harming doesnt go away on its own.
good luck pet :) |
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lyn f
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maybe they dont want to see what is happening to they son as a parent myself its hard for me to tell yours to look at your son he needs help and now there are grounps that you can go to but please stop if you can and say that a kind lady on the wed said look and you well see |
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David Wilson
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You must so confused, have you tried to sit your parent down and talk to them face to face, if you have take the next step and go an d see your doctor or councillor. but get help quickly |
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leonacary
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Talk to someone--anyone. If you have asbolutely no adults to talk to (you can't talk to any teachers, your guidance counselor, any older relatives), then talk to one of your friends who can. If your friends tell their parents and their parents talk to your parents, then everyone is in the loop. Your parents need to know how you feel and what you are doing to yourself. Maybe they are in self denial and think you are merely clumsy.
If there is no one you can talk to in person, try the phone (suicide hotlines are staffed 24/7) or writing it down and then handing it to your parents or leaving it where they will find it. Your parents need to know. |
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delyth h
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That is so sad for you. Try talking more with them. Or book to see your GP/school concillor with your parents. they need to know how you feel. You are very brave and strong to talk about it. Come on....get that help and tell them it is real.
All the best. |
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Star G
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talk to a councelor at your school or a minister at your church. They can talk to your parents with you to help them see the need for professional care to help you over come this! Do this as soon as possible.
Sometimes parents don't want to see the problems their children are having, or, because they don't know how to deal with the problems they tend to do nothing and hope the problem resolves itself. It is human nature, so please don't be angry at them, they are probably just as lost about what to to for this as you are. Sometimes they just need an outside push in the right direction.
Good luck! |
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desi
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Parents arent perfect, they dont know what to do to help you.
Why dont you be more direct with them about what you would like to happen?
Like, "im very depressed and would like to see a doctor about it."
tell your gudiance conulser at school and they can help you and even help talk to your parents if what i mentioned sounds scary. |
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mcgag29
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Talk to a teacher or cunsellor, or another family member that might understand ( like an aunt or uncle).
If not call a kids help line...don't go on like this if you need help...turn to someone ealse, some one will help you! |
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MRS P
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sorry you are feeling down, we all go through stages in life where we feel down. you must stop self harming it does no good, you must realise that you are a good, special person and fight on through this. this is only a phase you are going through and you will come out of it believe me, even if you can not see the end in sight you must not quit you are a strong person and you must believe in yourself.maybe you should see a doctor, or do you have another adult you can speak to, sometimes parents are so busy they don`t stop to realise that we have problems, maybe they have problems of there own. chin up take a deep breath and smile you have the world at your feet and a lot to live for. |
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helen p
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Ring childline. Are you in GB? You need help and fast. They will really listen and help you. These are parents who have been through this kind of thing and know exactly where you need to go and who you need to speak to. Some help alone before you get your parents involved may be best. Just call and have faith - they will help you. Don't give up. |
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sheep_demon
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Hi there! I'm sorry that you feel like your parents don't care.
Many parents will think along the lines of if i don't see it - its not happening!!! - they may not want to admit to themselves that you have a problem.
Please have a look at this website - it is run by a friend of mine who also self harms.
I hope this will help you to understand why you are doing this to yourself
www.madnotbad.co.uk |
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me
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i self injure too your really brave to let your parents know i could never do it |
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lisaleahjack
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Maybe they dont want to bring attention to it for fear of making you feel bad, or maybe they just dont want to admit it to themselves its happening for a valid reason. Have you tried taking one of them aside and asking them for their help about it? Do you know yourself why you do it? I think you should go to this website and talk to someone there, my sister is a moderator and will help you Im sure of it. Keep your chin up and make an appointment to see your GP if your parents dont help you. You are worth more than that and God knows being young is sooooo difficult. (i remember that much). Take Care of your self x |
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