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I feel like life is passing me by and I'm so depressed. How can I find happiness?
A year ago I left my abusive husband after almost 16 years of marriage. I didn't have anywhere to go , so my daughter and I moved in with my mom. I thought it would only be for a short time , but it is a year later and nothing has changed. I am so depressed. I have no job, no car, no money, no man. I have nothing to look forward to. I feel I'm stuck here and I don't know how to improve things. I get so depressed I dont even feel like living anymore. I want to make a better life for me and my daughter but I don't know where to start. I feel like life is passing me by and I want to achieve something and be happy before it is too late. Any suggestions? Also, how can I keep from getting so depressed?
Well, I am sorry for your rough times. I too have recently gone through some hard times and am lucky enough to have the mental and emotionial strentgh to want to better my life. I have been an atheist for about 7 years and I have decided to try and turn to god. After my g/f left me to live this life I had time to think about how negative and unhappy i really am. I was lucky enough to have her take me back and work on religion with me and to start fresh...taking things slow.
What im getting at is..this may be the prime time for you to turn to god and start to live and look at life in a different way. Start with small reading and praying, and dont expect overnight results. But in doing this, you should begin to find the strength that you need to pull yourself out of this rough patch in your life. I wish the best for you and your daughter.
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Start a new hobby, try and keep yourself busy constantly and take lots of exercise and eat chocolate... makes you happy :).
Join a group/ club specialising in something you love... you might even find the man of your dreams there. DON'T LET LIFE PASS YOU BY. Tell yourself that you are totally happy and that depression doesn't exist.
First you should see your Dr. You may need meds. Then I think you need to find a single mom support group. You will probably find a few good women to connect with and ....once you start the positives more will follow, a job etc. You need to fight hard to get positive even though at first it may feel phony. Focus on the good, even if it's small, like the weather or a pet. Focus on your daughter. You dont need a love relationship while you are down. Wait! Good luck!
From that long list, the thing that jumps out, is that you don't have a job. Get a job and you will feel better immediately. It will also, hopefully, give you some choices; like moving out of your mother's house. You will also meet other people and make friends. You might even meet a new man. It will give you a different perspective and your daughter will benefit as well. Good luck
All I can suggest is to apply for jobs. I know it isnt as easy as that but people that work usually have a better self esteem and know they are at least doing something. It can be any job just to get back in the mainstream of things. Also, to get over depression, all i can suggest in the meantime is to get out and exercise or go to a gym. If your depression is something you need to talk about, find a group therapy session. Most of them are free. Basically you need to get out and do something. Anything!
i have exact same thing in my life.
feel like complete loser and im wasting my time and all .
feel like im stuck here for years.
and nothing is changing ..
this silence is killing ..
its like dead silent all over here.
when this happens i keep myself calm .
i keep myself not even moving for a while and think over it.
give time to myself for a while.
coz its never could be good to put an end to all this.
coz when it ends u have no options then anymore.
so every dark night has a dawn .
wait for it and pray for it.
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up. ~ Anne Lamott
Good luck ..
I dont know much about being on my own be i am a daughter of a single mom and when we started she had nothn. she went to school and now shes a teacher. She stuck with peolpe like her and they all helped eachother. She has very good friends that they r "growing" together. hope this helps, and dont forget 2 spend time with daughter
Sounds familiar. Only I didn't move. He did.
You are going to make a better life for yourself. So have confidence in yourself!
Actually, I had it "bad" and was quite depressed, myself.
It took getting to know God better, and new friends... for me to recover. Oh, yes, an anti-depressant did help in the beginning.
God bless you and your child!
Well all u need in life is god and once u have found him then everything will fall into place ask ur mom to bring u around ur home town looking for jobs. I belie ve that u will pull through. just remember to smile everyday and think of all the good things in ur life. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
if you aren't already in therapy you should consider it. it will do you some good. if you are in therapy then perhaps you need to find a new therapist. also, you need to get a job, even if its only part time.
The secret to being happy is....
Make no demand on this moment. And make no demands on others or yourself.
Just be OK with the way it is. Say yes to life rather than rejecting what is. Ask for nothing and everything is given to you.
a year IS a short time
most people take five years
try looking for a job, or look for courses you can take, to make friends etc....
congrats on leaving him ...I do know how hard it can be. get yourself some counseling and if that is not possible go to the library and checkout the self help section, watch for volunteer ads in the paper, join a club or group of some sort, get involved with your daughters school, you were strong enough to leave him you are strong to rebuild your life go do it!
Oh I am so sorry about all of this, but the only way it's going to get better is if you try not to look at what you don't have. Think about what makes you happy, and that will help keeping you from being depressed. Try not to dwell on the negative. In the meantime, I think that you should really start to see a doctor or therapist to get some medications for depression, and get the ball rolling to start over.You can only take life one day at a time. I know there alot of things you want to improve, but they all won't come at once. you should make a list of things you want to accomplish, and then prioritize them. As you reach each goal, you will feel alot better. I hope that everything works out for you and your daughter.....
You could probably start off by getting a job. Even if it is a part-time job at first. You will get what you put into things. So if you want something really bad, than go get it.
Dont be depressed, just look at your daughter and that SHOULD put a smile on your face day in and day out.
i have been a sufferer of depression since i was 14 hate taking meds. saying get a job isnt a great help people. somedays you have trouble making it to the couch from your bed!
but thats what you have to do. Little by litttle get up and out and about. Talk a walk, the fresh air can do wonders. Go to a park. If thats a bit much start by walking around the house around the yard.
Once you start you will feel alot better.
Make the decision to do something every day mini goals. doesnt even have to be big. When i first did it, my first goal was get out of bed! It can be organise a cupboard or walk to the letter box. Start small dont think about the bigger picture that makes you more depressed.
concentrate on now. this minute this hour this day, worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.
If that doesnt work. Get dressed in you best clothes go to a bar and have a few drinks. getting dressed up can mkae you feel alot better about yourself, therfore lifting the heaviness of depression even if it is for a little bit
Also girl. You dont need a man. Honestly are you in the right frame of mind to start a relationship anyway?
i really hope my rambling has helped. Been their several times its very hard to get out of. Most you have to really want to, sounds stupid but its true
Get some counselling. and GET A JOB! A job will give you money, money will give you your own place and a car. A man is something you do not need yet, being you're just out of such a long marriage; and trust me, life can be good with or without a man. Just go out there and apply for jobs!
i suggest seeing a therpist. he or she will give you better advice than anyone on YAHOO! ANSWERS... and he/she will help you with your depression before it gets too far
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This is a tough question to answer. I guess we all look for that elusive "happiness". I think because of how you feel at the moment, you are not looking at the bigger picture. You LEFT an abusive husband! I bet that was one of the hardest things you ever did, and you should be so proud of yourself for having the courage to do that. The fact that you are living with your mother is not an ideal situation, but you should try to take advantage of this opportunity. You are safe, your daughter is safe, and you have the ability to start over. There are resources out there to help you, even if you have a limited education. Try looking for work on Monster.com, or in your community newspapers. There are jobs out there for you. I think work will help you in two ways. One, it will allow you to make some money, and two, it will give you a social network. I think once you're out in the work field you will begin to feel better. But if you are still depressed, I would seek professional help. Even your doctor can prescribe something to help you to feel better. Right now, I think it's important to focus on what can be done today. And you can begin to rebuild your life--one small "mission" at a time. Don't give up, and good luck to you and your daughter!